An update and an explanation!

To the people who read my last post

and thought that you had missed this

big engagement announcement let me

ease your worries and tell you that

there hasn't been an official engagement announcement.

Or maybe that's what my last post was.

An engagement announcement ;)

Here's the thing, we're not sticking to cultural norms

or the status quo.

You're probably not going to see me flashing

an engagement ring all over town...yet.

You won't see engagement pictures of

us in a field with oh so perfect lighting behind us.

You won't see any of that because we're not

in the same place on this planet.

Now if we were a normal couple

that didn't have 4,000 miles in between us

then yes, you'd probably be seeing all of

those things right about now.

But we're not, so you're not!

I don't want anyone to feel like we forgot

to mention this to them before I blurted it out on my blog.

Truth is, everyone should know that

we're headed for marriage.

You just don't spend this amount of time

and money on someone you're not serious about!

And we've been serious for a long long time.

And it's time for us to move forward so we

can start living normal lives again!

And for my family and friends that read my blog

I just want to say that blogging is one of the best ways 

to get information out there to all of you!

Don't feel upset that I didn't personally come to you

and explain the happenings of my life because

we'd be there for a while and you'd regret the conversation instantly

once I start crying because this is all very stressful!

I've shed one too many tears over this already!

This isn't an easy process so please bear with me

and please pray for me because the stress and people pleasing

is really getting to me!!

I googled chronic people pleasing the other day.

Ticked all them boxes!

I'm trying to work on it!

Anyways...

Here's a little update for you all!

Tom and I are applying for the K-1 Fiance visa

so that Tom can come live in the USA for a few

years with me, married to me while I work and 

he works and get's his masters degree!

There are other facets to the plan like where

we'll live...how we'll survive on one income until

Tom gets his green card...but that's all information

that will come in the future!

So that's THE plan!

So while we are planning to get married

and do all sorts of things with our lives

it's hard to explain all of this visa information

to people who have never had to do it before.

You have to understand that I can't even get excited

about a wedding yet. I can't send invites, I can't plan anything

because before all of that happens Tom and I will

be thoroughly examined by both our governments.

The United States & The UK Governments 

get to decide if and when we get this visa!

And while I do think all will go smoothly

you just never know.

So yes, I'm going to blog about weddings

and plans and dresses and flowers and all sorts of things.

But don't think I've left you out, don't think I've forgotten to tell you.

Please remember that when this visa goes through I 

will shout all of this information at you, in your face,

because I won't be able to contain my excitement!

That is all...for now!!